First off…this wedding planning stuff is…crap. Absolute crap. I am sick and tired of never having anything else on my mind. I’m tired about stressing out about guest lists and finding a photographer, figuring out a schedule for pre-marital counseling, and wondering…IF ANY OF IT CAN EVEN BE PAID FOR.
I used to get mad when people would tell me to elope. THIS IS WHY THEY WERE TELLING ME TO ELOPE. Maybe I should have LISTENED. Because when it’s all said and done, not a stinkin’ thing that I’m getting stressed out about will even matter. The dress will hang in a closet for 40+ years, never to be worn again. The candles and table decorations will either get tossed or stashed in a place that’s just going to have to be cleaned out eventually. The flowers, the cake servers, the THIS, the THAT, and the OTHER THING…DOESN’T FREAKIN’ MATTER.
I’m this-close to throwing in the towel and saying, “Screw it.”
I used to think I was above this “Mass-Wedding-Hysteria.” Apparently not. Would someone please explain to me why the color on the programs MATTERS?
Oh, it doesn’t.
What a crock.
5 Comments
February 12, 2008 at 2:18 am
Wedding planning is icky.
Some of it is fun, but mainly it is a big friggin’ headache.
My condolences.
February 12, 2008 at 8:31 am
Here’s an idea for the wedding dress… one of my sewing customers asked me to cut her dress apart and make three christening gowns from the fabric. One for each of her children to have for their future children’s christening. They turned out really well (I was so nervous about cutting that dress up!)
And her first grandson already wore his! Just an idea.
Oh, and try to calm down. You are right. Not one thing you are stressing about will matter later on. Try, try to calm down and enjoy this time. I’m sure the wedding will be beautiful, and everyone will have a wonderful time.
Please, please post pictures of the event!!!!!
February 12, 2008 at 2:29 pm
Planning for a wedding is really stressful. I lost weight even when I’m not dieting while planning for ours.
But, hang in there, you’ll miss all the wedding preparations — including the headaches– once the wedding is over
You can do it!
February 12, 2008 at 4:27 pm
As far as a photographer, can you ask a friend to do it? (Someone that is actually capable of taking pretty good pictures?) I’ve always liked “real” photos as opposed to the “posed” photos.
This can be as much or as little as you want. It’s your wedding. If you don’t want food, just get cake. Or you don’t even have to have a reception–if you don’t want to deal with all that stuff. I know a lot of people have their opinions, but you are right, none of it will matter the day after.
You were at our wedding–it was small and puny. But we had people there that we loved and it really was special. And ten years later, we had a vow renewal ceremony and did just what we wanted to do.
Just remember that you can do whatever you want. I don’t care what other people’s opinions are–it is your wedding. Pray about it and see what God says.
February 14, 2008 at 4:54 pm
Hi, I’m new to your blog, so… Anyway, I DID elope, and ever since then I have regretted the fact that I did not have that moment, of looking down the aisle, and seeing everyone there to celebrate with me. Now every time I help plan a friend’s wedding I end up in tears for all of the joy and nerves and excitement that they have and I never did.
I guess what I’m saying is that yes, it is a headache, which is why we have friends to hold our hands and bring us ice cream. It’s a headache, but it is infinitely worth it.